In the modern world, desires are constantly fueled by advertisements, social media, and societal expectations, trying to get us to feel a deep sense of lack so that we buy their products. The deeper the sense of lack, the more willing we are to buy their products.
While desires can motivate us to achieve our goals, they can also lead to dissatisfaction, anxiety, and a perpetual sense of lack.
Reducing desire doesn't mean giving up on our dreams; it means finding balance and contentment in the present moment. In this blog post, I’ll share how to reduce desire through mindfulness, which will in turn cultivate self-love and acceptance.
Understanding Desire
Desire is a natural human experience. It's the craving for something we don't have, be it material possessions, experiences, or even emotional states. While desires can drive personal growth, they can create a cycle of constant wanting if we expect external things to make us happy. So from now on, no longer believe that external things will fulfil you. You can only get that feeling of oerfect contentment you want from accepting and embracing life as it is. If you keep doing this, you will live in a state of 80% acceptance / gratitude / love for life, and 20% desire to ensure that you keep having the external things you want.
Some people will say that they can’t accept the present moment or do not want to, but accepting something does not mean that we want it to continue into the future, it just means that we are taking a break from immediately attacking and resisting it.
The Key Insight
We desire things because we think they will make us happy, but happiness (desirelessness) can only be cultivated from within.
If desire is causing you to feel needy when approaching women, use the guide below to generate happiness from within, then the neediness will be gone and women will enjoy receiving your authentically positive energy.
Mindfulness Can Generate Happiness From Within
Mindfulness is simply the practice of being fully present in the current moment, and not judging it. Many people find that having a daily routine to practice this helps very much to transform their mind.
Do you desire desirelessness? If yes, that’s ok - it’s just part of the present moment. Be ok with whatever appears in your experience. You might become aware of a deep sense of dread or unhappiness. While practicing mindfulness there is nothing you have to do about it, you only have to look at it.
I’m not exactly sure why, but just being intimately aware of our experience for 10 minutes generates peace from within. The exact reasons why it works shouldn’t really matter, all we want is a mind which is not too needy.
So, to recap:
1. Awareness: Mindfulness helps us to become aware of our desires as they arise. By observing them without immediately reacting, we can understand their root causes- whether they stem from genuine needs or external influences.
2. Acceptance: Instead of fighting our desires or feeling guilty about them, mindfulness encourages acceptance. Acknowledge our desires without judgment, which can reduce their intensity and power over us.
3. Detachment: By practicing mindfulness, we learn to detach from the idea that our happiness depends on fulfilling every desire. We begin to see that contentment can be found in the present moment, regardless of external circumstances.
Going Forwards
Now you should create a routine of mindfulness meditation so that your desire has less and less power over you. 10 minutes every morning is a good first step.
Without practice, this blogpost is useless, but with practice, this blogpost could be life-changing. Don’t let your mind make any excuses for why you can’t do it- you can certainly do this,
David
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